Sharing our feelings can be one of the most difficult tasks but our resiliency depends on it. There are many ways to share feelings and they all can play an important role in your own resilient life:
Talk to a professional
Councilors and therapists are qualified professionals who are there to help during difficult times. Seeing a professional for help isn’t a sign of weakness but a sign of strength and commitment to succeed in your journey to become whole again. Actively confronting your feelings instead of hiding them inside is a quality of great warriorship.
Join a group
Join a group that focuses on sharing their own similar experiences. Being around others who are going through difficult times can dramatically change your perspective on your own situation. It may not only give you deeper insights into your own suffering but it may offer new ways of embracing your situation in a positive light. Being a part of a group that is safe and directed by someone who has skills to offer can help you become resilience and gain your strength.
Create a Journal
Create a journal where you can express your thoughts and feelings. This doesn’t always have to be writing, it can be drawing, scribbling out emotions or random words or whatever noise is in your head. Journaling is a great way to keep track of you, get to know yourself again and can cultivate moments of deep compassion and clarity.
Sharing your feelings doesn’t always mean going over a particular event or situation. There are many situations in family life, work or in the community where appropriate sharing is necessary for your well being during difficult times. In these cases sharing may mean simply being able to say what you need. A big part of becoming resilient is being able to honor how you feel during difficult times and being able to articulate what you need in various situations. Verbalize when you need some space, when you need to be quiet, when you need someone to understand, when you feel frustrated, when you are feeling overwhelmed or confused. Sometimes we are unaware of what we are feeling and can’t even begin to articulate exactly what it is, take time to feel.
Being able to set boundaries, take care of yourself and respectfully share with others requires an inner awareness that can be strengthened with practice.